I just went through my blog reader and deleted some blogs I've been following. Some because they never update anymore and some because they've simply gone in a direction that just doesn't work for me. The ones that don't update...well, I kept them around for a long time because if they DID ever update I wanted to know about it. There's one still there like that, because I'm really hoping that she'll come back. Really, really hoping. The rest...well, I don't know. I didn't really read them that long, so there isn't really a big connection. I still feel bad, though. I don't update that often, although I do at least update more often than once ever 6-8 months. I know I still have at least one reader (hi Jess!) and probably more than that, if statcounter is to be believed. That could just be people stumbling by, though. I know the people I removed probably won't miss me - it's not like I'm an "Iron Commenter" or anything, and I doubt many people look very often to see who is following them and who has stopped, and it's not like they're going to contact me to find out why I stopped and it's not like they follow me. I still feel bad.
As for those who went in a different direction...that happens. What started out as IF blogs turned into mommy blogs. Which is GREAT - don't get me wrong. That's the WHOLE idea - If turns to treatments turns to baby...right? Right! Most of the time, hopefully. And baby means mommy blogs. And some mommy blogs I can handle and I'm fine with and I like reading. But some I just can't. It's all about writing style. I think these bloggers lost me a long time ago, I just wouldn't admit it. I felt...obligated? to keep reading, because I started reading while they were in the middle of IF (or the beginning) and I owed it to them to keep supporting them until the end, whatever the end was. I just...don't fit anymore. *shrug* And I doubt they'll miss me. Again - not a big commenter. And they have LOTS of followers, so I don't think one will be missed.
I still feel bad. I feel like I should keep reading.
11 hours ago
5 comments:
Hahaha, I giggled when I saw the "Hi Jess!" Am I really that comment-y? I kinda am, huh?
Ah well, I'm just that type I guess! You're going to have to shut down if you want to get rid of me, probably! lol
I've pared down the blog reading lists several times. Don't feel bad. You have to sometimes.
Wait. Treatments lead to babies? WTH? My body mostly missed THAT memo.
AND on that note, if you don't want to read me, don't feel like you have to....since you know, I'm mommy/ttc(ish)/don't know what the he** I'm doing half the time.
Hi Tigger. (Here from Stirrup-queens 11/11)
I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I understand the blog roll re-fresh, because I've done it before & been where you are. Deleting those happy mummy blogs because they hurt too much, but feeling obligated to stay. Wanting updates from those who are inactive & comforting those who are in the same space.
You need to do what's right for you. If you can't read, then don't & don't feel like you should.
Take Care.
Jules
(an old IF blogger who's treatments finally lead to success).
Just a note to let you know that I'm still here reading ... I'm usually checking through google reader, so I don't know if that shows up in your statcounter or not.
Don't keep reading me out of obligation --- that's that last thing I think any blogger wants. I lost a lot of readers in the past few months, and I can guess this is from a combo of my reduction is posting (though I am coming back) and the definite lack of my once ubiquitous posts documenting my despair and self-reflection. Now it is all, "Look what she can do!" which is exactly the sort of thing I had difficulty reading in the "before" time.
You do what you have to get what you need from the blogging experience.
I'm sure that everyone understands. I have a long list of blogs that I just can't read right now. But maybe someday....
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