Monday, December 03, 2007

The drama llama has arrived

and it appears to have taken up permanent residence in my house. If you know anyone whose life could use a little drama, please direct them to me. I will gladly give it over.

1) I have finally been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I've suspected it for about 5 years or so, but suddenly someone is taking me seriously. I have a new pain care doc. He pushed a few places (all trigger points for fibro) and all of them hurt to varying degrees. He's got me back on Lyrica and wants me to go to the gym 5-6 times a week and ride the bike. That was almost a month ago and I haven't make it once. Between school, work, and life I just don't have time. Not even for 15 minutes.

2) Giggle and Chuckles moved out, yeah? WOO! Guess what? Friday night, when Chuckles came home, Giggles had taken the baby and all of their belongings (hers and the baby's) and left - gone to live with her parents. No word to anyone - she didn't call her school, the utilities companies, welfare office, me, wilma...no one. Just...left. Chuckles called the cops, since he didn't have any proof of where she was only that she and the baby were gone. SHE told the cops that she filed abuse charges against him. Physical, mental, emotional. WTF?! I'm beginning to think she's as manipulative as her mother. This has been planned - it had to have been. Just looking back, I know it was. For how long, I can't say - but I bet several months. Today it turns out that she did NOT file charges - she lied to an officer. I hope she's in so much trouble. I'm furious with her at this point and trying to help Chuckles, without actually fixing anything because I've been ordered not to get involved up to my eyebrows.

3) Mom started her chemo two weeks ago. She called me on Tuesday to warn me that had shaved her hair down to about 1/4", because her scalp hurt and she was certain that her hair was going to fall out and she wanted me to be warned. She came up to see me on Wednesday and we went to the TSO concert. It was a blast. Thursday night, Wilma brought her babies over so mom could see them. We were supposed to have dinner with Giggles, but Wilma canceled due to stress. Turns out that was a good thing. At any rate, while we were sitting on the couch with the babies, moms scalp started hurting again. She reached up to tug her hair (which she does a lot) and pulled out a chunk of hair!!! She then proceeded to pull out tuft after tuft of hair...very disturbing to watch. She says it didn't hurt, but DAMN! She also thinks that the cancer is in her lungs and that the docs just haven't found it yet. She says the chemo is going to kill her before the cancer does. I know she's trying to be realistic, but it kills me...and I will never let her know that. I have to be strong for her.

Two weeks until finals - this week and next. Finals are the week before Christmas. I have two papers due this week in bus com, a project due in Intro to Computers before next Friday, at least one more quiz in Med Term before next Friday. I also have a quiz in IC and a test before the 20th, a test in Med Term by then, a bio test on the 17th and a presentation on a paper I haven't written in Bus Com in the next two weeks. ACK! Also have to find time to go Christmas shopping for Aaron, mail presents to a few friends - and I don't think I'm going to get cards out this year, which just sucks.

The day after finals we are going to see mom for the weekend, just before Christmas. We'll be doing Christmas with my parents and my sister's family in Jackpot, NV...and possibly my brother, if my sister gets him a ticket. I'm not really looking forward to that part - I haven't seen my brother in about 7 years and haven't talked to him in 4...since the Christmas just after Aaron and I got married. My brother never even met the man I was engaged to between my ex-husband and Aaron...and hasn't ever met Aaron either. I called him to tell him we were engaged (Aaron and I) and he said "That's nice. Can you put $25 on my phone?" Christmas that year he called mom's while I was there and mom told him I was there with my husband, to which he replied "Jen's married?" Duh, bro...that usually happens when you get engaged. Not always...but usually. So yeah, not really looking forward to that but he should be there, just in case this is mom's last Christmas as she expects. I will make it nice.

Time for me to go. Need to work on papers and talking about my brother gets me very upset. Love you all - thanks for sticking around. I know I'm terrible about updating....and not doing so well with the reading lately either.

13 comments:

IdleMindOfBeth said...

Sorry darlin, but I housed the drama llama for about 6 months last year. That's enough for me for a long, LONG while. I do hope he leaves you alone quickly!

{{{{{hugs}}}}} Sorry you have so much going on right now. Keep your chin up, and keep plugging away.

Jess said...

Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry that things are so nutty for you. Poor Chuckles! I hope that he can work things out so he at least doens't come out being on the losing end of a bad bad thing. :(

Sorry about your mom, too. Brave and good of you to be there for her....but do take time for yourself, too. You're no good to anyone if you can't.

Hugs!

nancy said...

Oh my goodness. I'm sorry about your diagnosis, but then again, I'm glad they are taking you seriously. I've heard it's such a hard thing to deal with.

Good luck with your mom's chemo. I hope she's able to get through it as easy as it could possibly be (which I know isn't easy at all).

Question .. I've followed the Giggles/Chuckles saga as much as I could have and I have an underlying question - who are these people to begin with? Relatives? And how old are they? She seems so immature to have done such a thing, but that doesn't mean anything in regards to age.

Tigger said...

Nancy - Chuckles is Aaron's nephew and Giggles was his fiancee. Both are 19 - she just turned in August, he will be 20 in January. The way she handled this was VERY immature - not at all the way she seems most of the time.

Anonymous said...

Oh Jen!

I'm so sorry that you have all this to deal with at once. Hopefully it means that once it's over, you won't see the Llama for a very long time.

Sending you lots of hugs,

Pamela T. said...

I can only hope the drama llama has plans to be on the other side of the equator for 2008 (no offense to the other side, but dang! I want him as far away as possible...)

Hoping that your Lyrica does wonders and that you'll soon have enough time to get to the gym -- if only to allow you to work out some of the stress that's been your constant companion. You totally deserve a break!

Lollipop Goldstein said...

A lot on your plate. I'm so sorry about your mum (and hope you don't have too much stress if you have to see your brother). That is absolutely nuts about Giggles. And the fibromyalgia, Tig. A lot on your plate.

dayzofrain said...

Hi You don't know me but I came over from Connections Abound. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and CFS last year around this time after a scary time thinking that Lupus was in the picture too.

if you want someone to share the trials with feel free to look me up :D

JJ said...

Im sorry about the fibro-my dad has had it for years. Im glad though, that they have been able to diagnosis and hopefully you will feel better soon! And many prayers for your mom!

decemberbaby said...

Geez, whoever's feeding the drama llama needs to stop. I think you have more than enough on your plate for the next five years.

I've had fibromyalgia for the last 10 years at least (you know how it is, diagnosis takes forever). If you need to talk or whine or whatever, let me know.

Anonymous said...

Man Jen, I am so, so sorry to hear all of this. I'm sorry I haven't been keeping tabs on you, too.
Miss you lady, lots of hugs. I hope the llama takes off soon.
Veronica

Esperanza said...

Goodness when it rains it pours. I am so very sorry for all this. Truly I am. Wishing it all away won't work, but I'm doing it anyway.

Anonymous said...

So not only would going to the gym help you lose weight but it would also help your disease and yet you "can't find time" Somehow you manage to find time to be online constantly. Hmmm.